Dear Mister Prelude 序章
Hi there,
This is Juhan. I started DearMister because I enjoy connecting with people as I go on the journey to find the love of my life. Every date is like a book. Some are romance. Some are thrillers. Genres aside, all of them have taught me something new, something I didn’t know about myself.
嗨！
我是 Juhan。DearMister 紀錄著我約會的經驗與反思。與人交流讓我覺得在讀一本活靈活現的書。每次約會都讓我學習到新的東西，發掘不一樣的自己。
What is DearMister About?
I’ll be going over my experience with a date using the following template:
Our interactions
Why did I date him in the first place?
What was interesting about him?
Personal Retro:
Did I learn something new?
What am I feeling?
How does he change the story I tell myself?
DearMister的內容如下：
我會用以下的模板來紀錄我的 dating 體驗：
我們的互動
決定碰面的原因
他吸引我的地方
反思:
我學到的東西
我當下的感受
他如何改變我對我自己的看法
Naming of DearMister
Thanks to my dear friend Charlene, who knew exactly what I thought and how I felt, shouted “Dear Mister!” as we brainstorm a title that would do justice to all the wonderful men who spent a few hours with me. The strong resonance was immediate.
Dear Mister speaks to the authenticity, maturity, and romance I’m looking for from the date and myself. My hope is to find out who I am throughout this journey.
DearMister 的命名
萬事起頭難，光想名字就想破頭。rateMyDate 是想出的第一個名字，但我總覺得哪裡不對，尤其是 “rate” 這個詞。我覺得每個人都有他的特別之處，而 “rate” 本身的定義，會忽略一個人的多層面向，我不太喜歡這種降維打擊與物化人性的感覺。再加上這個名字固然吸引眼球，但有點爛大街。
感謝摯友 Charlene 的幫助。當我把想法告訴她時，她完全抓住我心目中的感覺。而 DearMister 正是她構想出的好名字。當她喊出 “Dear Mister”時，我頓時感受到一股暖流貫徹全身。這是從內而外，發自內心的感動與興奮。
Dear Mister完美地傳達了我對真誠、成熟和浪漫的追求，既對於約會對象，也對於我自己。我也希望通過這個過程更好地認清自我。
DearMister的重點不在於我和誰約會，而在於我怎麼在與他人交流中找回自己，重拾自信，重新詮釋及定義自己。
My Dating Philosophy
How do I define dating? How is it done?
Dating is about spending quality time with someone who has a chance of becoming a future partner.
I would read my date’s profile and review our conversation thoroughly, so that I could ask good questions.
約會哲學
我對約會的定義？我如何約會？
約會是透過與對方相處，來判斷眼前的這個人適不適合作為未來伴侶。那具體該怎麼進行一場約會？我會事前細讀約會對象的簡介還有之前的對話紀錄，藉此想出好的問題，以便我在有限時間內快速了解坐在對面的他。
I’ll publish weekly on Monday, subscribe to find out the first Dear Mr.
今後我會在每週一發佈新的文章，歡迎關注與分享！
Enjoy your week,
Juhan